My Birth Story :
From my 20 th week of pregnancy i started attending these antenatal classes from Bloom birthing centre. I was always googling and learning how to keep myself and mybaby healthy but birth choices from my limited knowledge i knew only normal , water and c section deliveries. I expected only excersises to be part of these classes but these sessions turned out to be much more than that. I learned all the birth choices available ,how to prepare ur and partners mind and body for the experience , what to expect and how it can go awry irrespective of how prepared u are. I felt so confident in facing my delivery, ate healthy, i always had answers for all the elder’s do this and do that kind of probes scientifically and walked an hr per day and did my excersises atleast 5 times a week for an hr till my 41 st week of pregnancy. My husband and Jayashree mam were very supportive till the end and Jayashree mam has offered support post delivery also. She is very resilient and more determined than the mother herself to get her through a natural / water birth. The kind of support she offers throughout labour is something which cannot be explained. Though i have chosen natural birth i could not continue it due to my pain tolerability and my very slow progressing labour but she was with me throughout urging and guiding me and was taking my adamancy too well till i put my foot down to take an epidural and even after that she respected my decision and made sure i was well taken care off.
Though i was a first time mother i knew more than the regular mothers , thanks to jayashree mam. :
A fathers view Elangovan
ஆணுக்கும் இரண்டாம் பிறப்பு!
“பிரசவம், ஒரு பெண்ணுக்கு மட்டுமல்ல ஆணுக்கும் மறுபிறப்பே. ஆண்களின் அதிகாரத்தை ஒழிப்பதில் முக்கிய பங்கு, பிரசவத்துக்கு உண்டு. எங்கோ நமக்கு தெரியாமல் ஒட்டிக்கொண்டிருக்கும் அதிகாரங்களும் கூட அழிய வேண்டுமென்றால், பிரசவ அறை பயணித்தால் போதும்.”
பரபரப்பு, படபடப்பு, இறுதியில் சுபம் என அழகான திரைப்படம் போலவே எங்கள் பிரசவமும் அரங்கேறியது. கரு உண்டான மகிழ்ச்சிகரமான அந்த நொடியில் இருந்தே அதற்கு தயாராகிவிட்டார் என் இணையர். மருத்துவ கல்லூரி போகாத ஒரு மருத்துவராகவே மாறி, உணவிலிருந்து உள்ளம், உடல் என அனைத்துக்குமான பயிற்சிகளை மேற்கொள்ளத் தொடங்கிவிட்டார். தினம் இரண்டு மணி நேர வாக்கிங், ஒருமணி நேர உடற்பயிற்சி. டங்கல் நாயகியாகவே தயாரானார். என்னைப் பொறுத்தவரை பிரசவம் என்றால் வெளியே கணவர் இருப்பார். கொஞ்ச நேரத்தில் குழந்தை சத்தம் கேட்கும். மருத்துவர்கள் வெளியே வந்து உங்களுக்கு குழந்தை பிறந்துள்ளது என்பார்கள். இப்படிதான் சினிமாத்தனமான கற்பனை செய்திருந்தேன். ஆனால் மருத்துவமனை போனபிறகுதான் தெரிந்தது பிரசவங்களிலும் பல வகை உண்டு என்று. Natural birth, normal birth, water birth, ‘c’ section. தானே வலி வந்து, சின்ன கத்தி கீறல் கூட போடாமல் முழுமையாக தாமே முயற்சித்து குழந்தையை பெற்றுக்கொள்வது Natural birth-ம். அதாவது நம்ம பழைய கால வழக்கப்படி ஒரு மருத்துவர் துணையோடு இயற்கையாக குழந்தைப் பெற்றுகொள்வது. இதில், கணவரும் அருகில் இருக்கலாம். நாங்கள் இதையே தேர்வு செய்தோம். வலி தொடங்கிய நாள் மருத்துவமனையில் சேர்த்தோம். உண்மையில் வாழ்க்கையின் உன்னதத்தை உணரும் கனம் அங்கிருந்தே தொடங்கியது. எம் வாழ்வின் மறக்க முடியாத 36 மணி நேரத்திற்கான கடிகார முட்கள், தமது முதல் நொடியை அங்கிருந்தே ஒலிக்கத் தொடங்கியது.
கொஞ்சம் கொஞ்சமாக வலி தொடங்கவும், உடற்பயிற்சியை தொடங்கச் சொன்னார் மருத்துவர். என் இணையர், டக் வாக், பைடாக், என அனைத்துவித உடற்பயிற்சியும் என் கைபிடித்து தொடங்க, அவரோடு சேர்ந்து நானும் உடற்பயிற்சி செய்வதாக ஆனது. அவர் வலியை குறைக்க கனிவான வார்த்தைகள் கொண்டு நான் கொஞ்ச முயற்சிக்க, அதுவும் கூட அந்த வலியில் கடுமையாக தோன்றியதோ என்னவோ, திட்டித் தீர்த்தார். (நண்பன் படத்தில் இறுதி பிரசவ காட்சியில் நம்ம விஜய் வாங்கியதும் எனக்கு விழுந்தது ) தொடக்கத்தில் அரை மணி நேர இடைவெளியில் தொடங்கிய வலி, போக போக நிமிட இடைவெளியில் தொடர்ந்தது. குழந்தை பிறப்பதற்கான நேரம் நெருங்கி வருகிறது என்று உடற்பயிற்சியை தீவிரப்படுத்தினார் மருத்துவர். வலி பொறுக்கமுடியாமல் கதறினார். அதுதான் சரியான நேரம் என்று உடற்பயிற்சி தீவிரமாக்கப்பட்டது. வாழ்வில் தாளமுடியா துயரமென்பது, நாம் உயர்வாய் நேசிப்பவர், நம் கண்ணெதிரே துடிப்பதைக் கண்டு, நாம் அமைதியாக இருப்பதே. அதிலும் அவர் வலியில் துடிக்கும் நேரம் அதை அதிகப்படுத்த நாமே காரணமாக இருப்பது பெருந்துயரம். ஆனாலும் ‘மாமா, நானே வலியில் வேண்டாமென்றாலும் நீ இயற்கை மருத்துவமே தொடர வேண்டும்’ என அவர், வாக்கு பெற்றுருந்ததால், நான் மறுக்காமல் அதையே தொடர்ந்தேன். வலியில் அவர் முகம், கைக்குள் அடங்கா குழந்தையாக மாறியது. முத்தங்களால் மட்டுமே அவர் வலிக்கு மருந்திட முடிந்தது. எப்படியும் வலியை வென்று குழந்தையை பெற்றுவிட போராடினார். அப்படியே ஒரு இரவு முடிந்து இரண்டாவது இரவு தொடங்கியது. முயற்சிகளும் தொடர்ந்தது. வலியின் வேகம், இந்திய வறுமையின் வேகத்தில் பயணிக்க, இறுதியாக, இதற்கு மேலும் பொறுத்தால் சரியாகாது என அடுத்து normal birth-க்கு மாறினோம். (இடுப்பில் மறுத்துப் போகும் வலி தெரியா ஊசி போட்டுவிடும் முறை) கொஞ்சம் வலி குறைய, முயற்சிகள் தொடர்ந்தன. நள்ளிரவு கடந்தபடியே இருக்க, வலியும் கூட, உடற்பயிற்சிகள் தொடர்ந்தன. எனக்கே, இடுப்பு எலும்பு நொறுங்கிவிடுவது போன்ற வலி. ‘அப்படியென்றால் வயிற்றில் குழந்தையோடு இருக்கும் அவங்களுக்கு எவ்வளவு வலிக்கும்’ என யோசித்தபடியே எப்படியாவது குழந்தை பிறந்துவிட வேண்டும் என நினைத்துக்கொண்டே இணையரை தட்டிக்கொடுத்தேன். எங்கள் முயற்சி பலனளிக்கும் வகையில் குழந்தை வெளி வருவதற்கு சில சென்டிமீட்டர் மட்டுமே இருந்தது. என் குழந்தையின் தலையை நானே பார்த்தேன். வாழ்வின் பொக்கிஷமான தருணம். ‘எப்படியும் வெளி வந்துவிடுவான் எங்கள் அன்புத் தங்கம்’ என நினைத்த நேரம், அதுவும் தோல்வியடைந்தது. ஹார்ட் பீட், குழந்தை வெளியே வருவதற்கான தன்மை குறித்தெல்லாம் சில மணி நேர இடைவெளிக்கொரு முறை மருத்துவக்குழு பரிசோதித்தப்படியே இருந்தவர்கள், இறுதியாக இம்முறை ‘இனியும் தாமதப்படுத்த வேண்டாம்’ என்றார்கள். அப்போது மணி காலை ஐந்து. தொடர்ந்து பேசியவர்கள் “இந்தளவு முயற்சி செய்தமைக்கு எப்பொழுதே குழந்தை பிறந்திருக்கணும். ஆனால் சிலரின் உடல்தன்மையினால் இது கடினமாகிறது. மேலும் குழந்தை எடையும் கூட. எனவே யோசிக்க வேண்டாம்” என மருத்துவர்கள் உணர்த்த, அது நியாயமாகவே எனக்கும்பட்டது. இதனால் ‘சி’ செக்சன் போனோம். இதில் கணவருக்கு அனுமதியில்லாததால் வெளியில் காத்திருந்தேன்.
நான் கண்ட சினிமாக்களை மனதில் அசைப் போட்டபடியே. சரியாக அரை மணி நேரத்தில் குழந்தை அழுகைச் சத்தம். முதல் முறை அழுகை, ஆனந்தத்தை கொடுத்தது. பாரதிராஜா படங்கள் போல, நெஞ்சில் பட்டாம்பூச்சிகள் சிறகடித்து பறந்தன. வெண் தேவதைகள் மலர்கள் தூவினர். ‘உங்களுக்கு ஆண் குழந்தைப் பிறந்துள்ளது’ என்றார் தலைமை மருத்துவர். ஆனந்தப்படுவதற்குள், ‘மெக்கோனியம்’ குடித்துவிட்டார். அதனால் அப்செர்வேசனில் இருக்க வேண்டும் என்று தெரிவிக்க, நெஞ்சுக்குள் அடித்த ஆனந்த அலைகள் அப்படியே அசையாமல் நின்றுவிட்டன. விடிந்த சில மணி நேரத்தில், என் கைகளைப் பிடித்தபடி, “குழந்தை எங்கே?” என்றார் இணையர். ‘அவன் நல்லாருக்கான் கண்ணு’ என்றேன். என் கைகளை இறுகப் பற்றினார். அவர் கண்ணில் தெரிந்த ஆனந்தமும், கைகளில் பற்றிய வெப்பமும் இதுவரை நான் காணாத உணர்வு.
அடுத்து குழந்தையின் நலனுக்காக சூரியா மருத்துவமனை அழைத்து சென்றனர். இணையர் வேளச்சேரி-யில், மகனோ சாலிகிராமத்தில். இங்கும்-அங்கும் மாறி மாறி பயணங்கள் தொடர்ந்தது. மகன் NICU –யில் இருந்தான்.
அவன்தான் ‘யாழ்ரூபன்’ ஆச்சே. அதனால் அவரின் முதல் அறிமுகமே, தாய், தந்தையரை விட, தோழர்களுடன் தான். அங்கே, அவரைப் போல நிறைய குழந்தைகள். அவர்களோடு மகன் ஜாலியாகத் தான் இருந்தான். நான் மட்டும் நாள் ஒன்றுக்கு மூன்று முறை பார்க்க அனுமதி.
ஊசிகள் மூலம் மருந்து போடப்பட்டிருந்தது. தமிழ் இனத்தில் பிறந்த குழந்தைகளை, நெஞ்சில் நெல் மணியால் கீறி வீரத்தை விதைப்பார்கள் என நான் படித்த ஞாபகம். என் மகனும் நவீன புறநானூற்று வீரனாக இங்கே இருக்கிறான் என நினைத்துக்கொண்டேன்.
“அவன் பேருக்கேற்பவே போராளி. இந்த மண்ணுக்கு தமது பயணத்தை போராட்டத்தோடே தொடங்கியுள்ளான். வருவான் நம் தலைவன்” என நானும், இணையரும் நம்பிக்கையோடு சொல்லிக்கொண்டோம். நம்பிக்கை மட்டுமல்ல மருத்துவர்களின் சிறப்பான மருத்துவமும், நவீன விஞ்ஞானமும் எங்கள் மகனை நான்கே நாட்களில் நலமோடு எங்கள் கைகளில் சேர்த்தது. இதோ தற்போது எங்கள் கரங்களில் தவழ்ந்து விளையாடிக்கொண்டிருக்கிறான் “யாழ்ரூபன்”.
அதிகாரங்கள், ஆதிக்கங்கள் ஒழித்து அன்பை விதைக்கும் அரசியலை போதிக்கும் பயிலரங்கில் பிரசவ அறையும் ஒன்று. இதோ, எங்கள் யாழ்வேந்தன் ‘யாழ்ரூபன்’ தம் பிறப்பின் வழி, எமக்குள் அதை போதித்துள்ளான்.
May 6th, 2015 is the memorable day of my life when our little prince made me complete…
Here is my birth story as a MOTHER…
I and my husband were overwhelmed and my family was filled with joy and happiness when my Gynecologist had confirmed that I was positive…
But my first trimester had been a painful time to cross over as there were continuous vomiting due to sudden changes
This will be the time where every woman would require more of psychological support and care should be taken for diet
As I had gone through a stressful time till third month, I started making note of all the changes which would be coming up in future with the help of my Gynecologist…
Through the process of learning about pregnancy from elders, friends, books and Google, my focus had shifted to have normal delivery and this should be taken as a pure coincidence as I came to know about Happymom group in Hyderabad…
It was my by the end of my sixth month when I met Dr.Vinodha who is very patient clearing my doubts through out my pregnancy
Our (I and my husband) first session with her started with diet, excercises and baby positions…
As a working woman, I started exercising phase wise to balance between work and rest, though I had no much change to make in my diet plan…
Our second session was labor rehearsal and labor positions which gave us a lot knowledge and psychological preparation for the BIG day…
Gaining this knowledge helped me a lot to discuss and figure out about
1. Baby position (my baby was in posterior)
2. Birth partner (husband
3. Exercises (Squatting-most useful) with the Gynecologist (Dr.Madhavi)
After the regular checkup, Dr. Madhavi said to me “the baby hasn’t slided down yet” which worried me as it was the end of my 38th week and suggested to continue squatting…
Going furtherance we had another session with Mrs.Vinodha which gave mental strength and more clarity where the discussion went through the time the baby might take and it was like a revision class for me
It was on May 1st when Dr.Madhavi had checked the baby position and asked to keep a track on the outflow of Amniotic fluid
To that she added “be prepared, membrane started to dilate, it is 2cms open, you will be having contractions in the next two days and continue squatting”
Even after two days of waiting there were no contractions but I had a pain which lasted for 5 minutes and then subsided
On May 4th I again had an appointment with the Dr.Madhavi. She examined and the conversation was
Doctor: Doubtfully asked me “are you not having any pain?”
Me: NO, I just feel like a menstrual pain and it was only for 5 minutes
Doctor: Now you will be having pains and will be holding your baby in your hands tomorrow…it would be better to take an admission so that keeping a track would be easy
Though we waited for the next whole day there were no contractions again I seemed very much fine with my position..
Now the actual worry started to my family as there was a clash between what the Doctor is saying and what I was experiencing…
On May 6th when I visited once again, Gynecologist checked me and expressed a doubt “I really wonder why she does not have any pain as the membranes have dilated to 4cms and is open .This is the moment when you have to get admitted into the hospital within two hours as there is no time for the baby to come out…”
Even at the time I could not feel any contractions but we had decided to take admission after speaking to Dr.Vinodha not putting the baby in risk …
As I had no pain I was really not knowing that would be our BIG day which we were awaiting..
It was 3:30PM when I took admission completing all the formalities and the process of checkup of BP and Heartbeat of the baby was being taken
Meanwhile I and my husband started querying the Gynecologist and requested and convinced them not to add any Pitocin for the contractions to strengthen up..
With the knowledge what we had gained through everyone, me and my husband were totally prepared for the delivery to happen on May 7th because I was totally normal till 4:00PM and never had any false pains
At 4:20PM, the contractions started vigorously and the hospital staff shifted me to the labor room…
The Doctor kept on checking as to how many centimeters the membranes had dilated …
She started saying 5cms, 6cms and then 8cms…
Even at that moment I kept my mental strength up to question the staff about the medicines they are adding to me
The staff and Doctor were really very co-operative who added to my strengths and patiently answered all my questions…
It was around 5:00PM, when Episiotomy had been done and they added your baby is on high way and takes only 5-10 minutes to come out…
After 5 minutes of the unbearable pain I requested for an Epidural to be given…
Now to my surprise the Gynecologist said,” we can’t give any Epidural to you now as the Baby’s head is approaching and you need to push”
After 10 minutes of Pushing, the baby had taken his life into the new world at 5:18PM…
That was the moment which we were waiting for when I held him in my hands and pecked him on his lips
THAT BIG DAY WAS MAY 6TH 2015, WHERE EVERYTHING SEEMED COMPLETE TO ME IN ALL ASPECTS…
This is my first primi and it was happy to listen from doctors that I had such a simple delivery which took hardly 1.5 hours because of these exercises whereas generally it would be lasting for 12-17 hours.
It’s only our Baby who brought happiness into our lives and strengthened up the bonding between me and my husband (he had tears for me when I was going through the pain in labor room)…
I would like to give the total credit to my husband as it was only him who always supported, strengthened and kept me up through out the pregnancy period…Family members from their experience suggested me to go for C-section but with the full support extended by my husband and the confidence I had from taking these sessions made me strong enough to stand on my decision to opt for normal delivery.
‘Every mom- to- be’ should have a database about the period of pregnancy whether it might be from Google, books or classes etc..
Apart from that they also should be open and free to discuss with the Gynecologist for any kind of suggestions and advices required
I gained that kind of support from Dr.Vinodha and we would be thankful to her for updating us on ‘what, when and how’ things go on… A big thanks.
After 7 years of the waiting that i was able the feel the kick of little one inside my womb, the sensation of life inside my womb .That sensation overwhelmed me with joy making each day of pregnancy celebration. I was also bit anxious about delivery and things that can go wrong. Anyway the anxiety has some positive effects. It helped me in making the healthy lifestyle changes generate the drive to know more about pregnancy and health.
> Along with husband I decided to join for pregnancy class by Dr Jayashree. Preparing for baby’s arrival was a great bonding experience. The video on delivery shown helped in overcoming the fear about delivery pain developed from previously heard horror stories abt delivery pain and removing myths that has gone into my mind that it is as painful as 21 bones cracking.
> The rest of the days of my pregnancy went by peacfully till eight month. Towards the end of eight month I was taken to labour room to check fetal heart beat.The fetal heart beat turned out be normal but atmosphere in the labour room was unpleasant. Nurses were screaming at patient.As no bystanders were allowed the attitude of the staff was horrible towards the patients underegoing labour pain. During class I had seen labour room walkthrough where bystander was allowed. Most of hospitals in my city didn’t allow bystanders .Finally i found one hospital that allowed for bystanders and went for consultation for 9th month onwards there.
> On 38th week after examination on Wednesday doctor decided to induce on Satuday .I was not able to complete the my pregnancy class as i had to travel to native.I called up Dr vinoda for labor breathing sessions on Friday morning.She shared few tips which was helpful during delivery
> We started from home around 6:30 to hospital for admission. It was drizzling slightly which was a good sign. we reached hospital around 7:00 . We filled up the forms for insurance and admission. We went for dinner at canteen by that time we got the room. Friday night I got admitted around 10 they one helper came for preparation and moving to labour room.
> There were five other people admitted in the labour room .I was diligently observing each and every movement of my predecessors at labour room to understand what i will be going through in the next few hours. One nurse came and to insert IV needle .I never had IV before for a moment i was filled with anticipation of the pain. It was not more than an ant bite but that anticipation of pain was 10 times greater. I was getting settled in my bed comfortably while the duty doctor went through my medical records. An hour later doctor came for examination and medicine was administered for inducing
> By around 1 o clock i got mild discomfort in my back. It was so mild that the word pain would be inappropriate was becoming restless and wanted to walk with the room .I was feeling hungry and bored and wanted to eat something .Everyone except for my mother has left hospital thinking labour will start only the next day and near by cafeteria also got closed so i was not able to eat.
> About the 3:00 the intensity of the discomfort has increased and was periodic nature. Then I realized that labour pain has started. With the pain anxiety of delivery also increased .I suddenly remembered about Dr vinoda’s advice to distract yourself from pain.I used rainbow relaxation to distract myself .Time went by very fast. I asked my mother to massage my back. Magic of mother touch or effect of the massage not sure which one helped me to find relief from the pain.
> .I had asked for epidural .Later i realized it was unnecessary. They administer epidural around 8:30 after that my body started shaking. Doctor asked the team rush to theater. I was wondered whether body was shaking because of epidural sideeffect and I will be paralysed for rest of my life. As all my predecessors including one who has delivered 3 babies has not been taken to theater I shank into bed one part of the mind was telling I will be paralyzed rest of my life and other part telling it is just the positive sensation of the little one coming out which was a bit overpowering for my body
> They rushed me to theater within seconds. They shifted the bed ,I heard some on screaming “baby is coming out bring the kit fast”. Then I realized it is the baby that shook me and not epidural or paralysis .I was relieved. Suddenly an inexplicable positive feeling filled my body and mind .It would be hardly less than 5 min that i was moved to theatre I could hear the first cry of little one. I asked them whether it my baby who is crying? yes came the replying. I was overwhelmed.
> In the changing table i saw the cute little face.I couldn’t take my eyes off him he gave a innocent gaze back .He kicked his tiny feet as though telling i was the one who was kicking inside and kicking all this while
Being first pregnancy it was overwhelmimg. My first trimester went with establishing the fact that I was pregnant.Then came the second trimester where I had people around me suggesting me all sorts of precautionary measures and advices. Then came my third trimester when all my aprehensions about delivery and handling the baby started intruding. I was not confident enough that i would do the things the right way.
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For over nine months of an up and down pregnancy period, the thought and expectation of the life that was growing in me gave me utmost happiness and a restlessness for the big day – the day I will hold the little one in my hand. That day arrived on the 17th of April 2014. I was due on the 18th of April and my Obstetrician/Gynaecologist, Dr. Nithya Ramamurthi had been following my progress and the baby’s growth closely. Much earlier during the course of my pregnancy, she had suggested me to enroll in the Antenatal classes conducted by Dr. Jayshree (Happy Mother group) in the Fortis-Malar hospitals every week to learn more about the process of birthing and the pre-natal and postpartum care for me and my baby. I followed her advice and attended the classes along with my husband. The classes really helped us in being prepared and understanding the choices we had at the time of delivery and enabled us to make well informed and correct decisions without panicking. I also did all the exercises suggested during the classes and that helped in keeping myself flexible and in good health up to and after my delivery.
Even a week prior to the due date, the baby’s head had not got fixed and doctor was concerned that the baby was too big and the possibility of a surgery seemed high. However, the doctor advised to wait till the due date and then decide based on the situation. Two days prior to the due date, on the 16th of April, as I got ready for an appointment with the Dr. Nithya, I noticed I was bleeding. Upon reaching the hospital, Dr. Nithya kept me under observation for an hour and noted that the contractions were not strong enough though the baby’s head seemed to have finally fixed. After observation of one hour, Dr. Nithya asked me to go home but keep a check on the frequency and number of contractions and to call her and come immediately to the hospital anytime an emergency arises. After getting back home my husband and I kept a check on the contractions but they were not frequent enough to rush to the hospital. And so it was around 12 pm on 17th of April my water broke and it was green in color. I immediately called in the hospital and reached there in about 15-20 minutes. I was taken directly to the labour room where I was kept under watch. Since I was not getting strong contractions, my labor process was induced and dilation was monitored. I also requested for epidural which was to be given at the later stage of labor when the pain would increase but it turned out that I did not go that far in to labour. Dilation was happening slowly at the rate of about 2cm for 4 hour period. After a while Dr. Nithya came around to check and noticed that the progress of dilation was steady and the inducement could be stopped. I mentioned to the doctor that the water was green and that alerted her to the possibility of the fetus being in stress. She punctured the amniotic sac to confirm and it turned out to be meconium in the water. She advised not to risk a normal process as the baby could potentially swallow the meconium filled water which will cause problem to the baby. So, we decided to go ahead with the surgical labor procedure. I was taken to the operation room and all the hospital staff and doctors were very calm and helpful. This helped me stay calm without panicking. The doctors administered local anesthesia which only numbed my lower body and I was awake and able to be aware of the step by step process that the doctors took me through. In a few minutes, my baby was out and I heard his first cry. The doctor said “Its a boy!” and a nurse wiped and wrapped him and immediately brought him to me. I said “Hello” and I rubbed my nose against his…my first intimate moment with my little one!
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Till my wife entered her 8th month I thought my work was far from over and it is going to be her duty to take care of our kid. Then the transformation happened after we visited Dr.Jayashree (spell check).
It started off with sessions on exercises and continued for some weeks. During the 3rd class more details on what would happen and how to prepare ourselves for delivery was shared. That made me realise how important for a husband to stand by his wife during these days. I got a temporary transfer from Bangalore to Chennai to stay close to her and participate in her delivery. Having done the exercises regularly along with walking at frequent intervals we are all set for the delivery date with some confidence.
My wife was so anxious the day before her actual due date as she didn’t get any pain. I decided to pacify her by watching a comedy flick and it ran till 2AM in the morning. By 4.30 she got some pain and that was the first sign of delivery. We waited for couple of hours before we went to hospital. After examining her, the duty doctor informed us that the show has started. Here I would like to let all husbands working in Singapore, Dubai, Malaysia (basically 4 to 6 hours travel) to book their flights as you will have ample time to reach before your wife could deliver. By no means I am asking you to stay away till the D day but just a piece of advice.
It was said the pain would increase multi fold in few hours. Did that happen? For the next 2 hours it was only duty doctors and nurses who constantly monitored baby’s heart beat and no sign of pain. At 10.30AM a gel was applied to increase dilation. Then the usual procedure of cleaning and narrating the delivery process happened. By 1 PM there was a slight increase in pain but doctors said this is just a start. It was 3.30 PM and doctors performed the same procedure of applying the gel and monitoring the infant’s heart beat. “If she doesn’t get any more pain then we advise you to go back home and return tomorrow”, was the instruction at 5.30 PM.
By 6.30 PM gel was again applied for one more time. What did I miss here? Yes, the heart rate was measured. The actual show began when the clock ticked 8PM. Contractions were more frequent and it was informed to us that the dilation was about 2-3cms. Another factor to be considered was effacing. Close to 65% effacing was achieved. Now we are sure of staying back in the hospital.
I felt extremely sorry for my wife for the pain she went through. My calculations and imaginations on the labour pain went haywire after watching her actual labour pain. As the pain increased in the next one hour doctors informed us that the dilation was about 4cms and close to 100% effacing was achieved. Just couldn’t bear the pain my wife underwent, we opted for epidural (spell check). Again thanks to Dr.Jayashree for her advice on epidural and when to opt for it. It saved my wife from pain and rest of us from anxiety temporarily. The reason I say it saved us because my wife at some point of time decided to go for C section unable to withstand the pain. This too was discussed in the class.
It was 10 PM and she was into the labour room. After inducing epidural her membrane was ruptured and we were informed that the delivery can happen in the next 4 hours. One more round of gel (or some tablet) was applied and a glucose drip was given to induce pain by 9PM and that was also done to speed up the process. Back to labour room, in the next half an hour the dilation has increased to 8cms and the target is 10cms. In the next 20 mins complete dilation was achieved and the actual process to pushing the baby out was on.
Epidural effect had made my wife not to push so much and doctors advised her to continue to push or stop epidural. That statement made her more conscious and she cooperated very well. One duty doctor was on her stomach and pushing the baby with her hands as and when the contraction happened. When this happened my wife choked for sometime before she could get accustomed. All we heard after that was push, push and pushhhhhhh.
It was 11.56PM and our little princess first saw the earth. Mother kissed the little one and said, “May god bless you. Love you.” I was on cloud nine and not even close to explain the actual feeling of receiving my baby for the first time. As well I am happy for my wife for the normal delivery. How many more thanks should I say for all the support and information we received through various channels? Still a lot pending!
Thank god both baby and mother cooperated very well in the last hour.
The story doesn’t end here. Next article is on lactation issues and how we sorted it?
From a husband who cares for her wife and father who showers unconditional love for her daughter
I am now a proud mom of a beautiful 4month old girl baby and I am glad to share my pregnancy and post delivery experience. It has indeed been a smooth transition from an expectant mom to a mother with its own share of challenges .Thanks to the prenatal classes, which helped me overcome those challenges with ease.
Starting with prenatal exercises to new born care, the class was a complete package in itself. Practicing the prenatal exercises starting right from my 2nd trimester, helped me keep fit both physically and mentally.By the end of 6 classes I knew what to expect and had even taken a tour of my labour ward. I diligently followed all the dos and donts of pregnancy that I learnt in the class. At 8 months my baby’s head had fixed and I knew I was on the path to my normal delivery.
It was early in the morning around 2.30 am on march 13 when I felt my first contraction. With my due date around 10 days away I convinced myself that it was only a false pain and tried to fall back asleep again. Unable to drift into sleep I decided to time my contractions as it did not stop with one. The information that I had gathered during the labour class really helped. By 4.30am my pain had increased in intensity and frequency , but nothing unbearable. I realized it was time to visit the hospital and so I got admitted on emergency. The nurse did her preliminary checks and after a couple of phone calls to my ob-gyn confirmed that I was in labour and it was time for my baby to come out. I knew that in a few hours I would be holding my precious little one in my arms! Once the contractions had peaked I was administered the epidural anesthesia also known as painless delivery, as advised by my doctor. I had already been counselled about it and I knew I had taken the right decision to take it as the pain had become unbearable for me. Within few minutes I was numb below my hip and was only feeling the pressure of the contractions. We waited for some more time for the cervix mouth to open and slowly they asked me to push . I managed few pushes and was doing well , with my husband by my side for support. That was when my doctor noticed that the cord was around my baby’s neck. So they decided to use forceps to pull her out for the safety of the baby and out she came crying!
Nurturing and taking care of the little one has been a wonderful experience so far for both me and my husband. As we attended the classes as a couple, my husband is now very adept at handling the baby ,be it changing her nappy,putting her to sleep or comforting her when she in distress! I would definitely urge other expectant mothers to take up such classes to bond better with the baby and your spouse and to dispel myths related to pregnancy and delivery. Through these classes I realised that just because you are dull looking during your pregnancy it doesnt mean you are carrying a boy and whatever may be the mode of delivery, be it normal or caesarean , post delivery nursing matters the most for your little one!!
A huge thanks to Dr.Jaisri and Dr.Nithiya Ramamurthy ,I am now a happy mom indeed!!!
My Birth Story :
May 29th, 2014 – the most memorable day of my life!! My sweet, cute little one came into this world at 3.42 pm, after hours of anxious waiting. Since the news of my conception, life seemed more meaningful and beautiful, with eagerness towards every pre natal visit to what my obstetrician had to say, every scan with which I could feel my baby developing rapidly, and every fetal movement which kept reminding me of the gorgeous gift of joy inside me. I could hardly wait for the day I could finally touch and caress my baby.
June 11th, 2014 was my EDD but my instinct always hinted it would be no later than the last week of May. May 27th, 2014 was the day it all began. I started developing pains in my lower abdomen and as most of you out there, did not know how to differentiate a false labour pain from an actual one. The pain continued through the day and in the evening around 5.00 pm I decided I better visit the doctor once as night was fast approaching and I wanted to clear my mind off this issue no matter what the doctor had to say. So, my mom, brother and me went to the hospital and my obstetrician after examining me ruled out the pain as false labour. She said the os was still closed and so this was no case of labour pains. Phew! There was a slight relief as I knew I still had time to experience REAL labour pains. I went home and the anxious wait continued. Thanks to some of the ante natal classes I attended and the exercises they taught me, I was able to put myself in comfortable positions whenever I got those pains. May 29th, early morning 4.00 am, I woke up with the pains and decided I could not lie down any further. So, I sat down in the chair and started playing Wordament on my ipad! Suddenly I realized I leaked some liquid at around 4.30 am. It instantly struck me that that could be the membrane rupture causing the amniotic fluid to leak out. A tension set inside me. I was happy but at the same time very scared of labour and delivery. Also, I had the notion that if you start leaking amniotic fluid, you would probably end up with a C-section. My doctor’s words rang out to me, “If there is a water or blood discharge, rush to the hospital immediately.” So, I told my mom and by 5.00 am, my parents, brother and I were out on our way to the hospital. The duty doctor examined my condition and after consultation with my obstetrician, told me to get admitted for delivery. She said the cervix had dilated 2-3 cms. Those were the words that actually made me realize that the day had finally arrived!! Immediately, we rang up my husband, grandparents and uncle to inform them. All of them were excited and left for Chennai as soon as they could.
I stepped inside the suite and the nurses were onto me immediately. One of them did the preparation and required cleaning. The staff nurse came in later to examine. This was the moment I realized that I may not be able to bear the pain after all. I realized that bearing the pain not only included the pain of contractions but also the pain of internal examination. Only after real experience did I realize that almost every half an hour, the nurses examine thoroughly to check the head position of the baby, to turn the baby with their fingers if required to assist in safe delivery, the cervical opening length etc. Once I decided that bearing the pain would be tough for me, I decided to go for epidural with the doctor’s advice. I think this was a very wise decision I made and at the right time too!!
After the 1st examination, the staff nurse, Mrs. Devi said the cervix was 4 cm dilated and the head was descending fast. So I was made to change into the hospital’s clothes and moved to the labour room. My mom and dad wished me good luck and from their faces I could gauge that they were really tensed. My aunt and uncle, who stay in Chennai, had also arrived by then and they too gave me a few words of confidence. With all their blessings, I moved to the labour room, where I stayed on till 4.30 pm that evening. Nurses, Devi and Sundari were there with me throughout and talking to them helped me a lot to distract and divert myself during the period of anxious waiting. Anesthetist came in around 11.30-12.00 to give me the epidural. I was made to sit straight and she injected the medicine somewhere near my spine. I asked her all the technicalities I wanted to know related to epidural and she answered them patiently. Epidural is not general or local anesthesia. It is different from what they give during a C-section. With epidural, you may not be able to feel the pain of contractions but you will still feel the need to push during the later stages of delivery. After my dose of epidural, the pains suddenly seemed to disappear and I felt much more comfortable. I did not feel any pains and started chatting happily with the nurses. The epidural really helped. That was when my mom decided to just pay a visit to see if I was alright. Seeing me chit-chatting, she was sweetly surprised!! Sister Devi continued to monitor and my obstetrician also came in twice to see the labour progressing. Anesthetist also dropped in to see if the dosage was intact. When I felt my left leg go numb, they stopped the epidural dosage and said they would continue if required later on. As the time went past 2, I noticed a slight restlessness even amongst the nurses. They kept saying the baby was descending but there was no major progress to hint delivery anytime soon. I started panicking a little and wondered if they might end up doing a C-section. When so many thoughts were running in my mind parallel, the nurses called in my obstetrician, arranged all the tools required, hot water, cotton etc. They said that crowning would happen anytime! They asked me to start pushing whenever I felt the contractions. The epidural, however was not allowing me to feel the contractions fully. This was the only minute disadvantage of the epidural. But given a choice, I would opt for epidural + vaginal delivery any day. I asked the nurse to help me out. So she would tell me when I needed to push and that was when I would push too. The doctor arrived and within few minutes of pushing, the baby came out. Doc lifter her and said “Congratulations, Brindha. It’s a baby girl”. She placed the baby on my tummy so I could touch and feel her. Doc said it was a big baby and the cord was twice around the baby’s neck that’s why the slight delay in delivery towards the end. I was so filled with emotions that I was literally crying during this moment. It was un paralleled joy, happiness, wonder and a beautiful feeling, “I am a mother!”
They took the baby away for examination by the pediatrician. My doc continued the other stages of delivery – removing the umbilical cord and finally the placenta. We had also booked for stem cell banking. So, this guy from the bank had also arrived to collect all the required items. This was also happening parallelly. I was totally exhausted and felt giddy lying there on the bed, crazily happy that my baby was born and extremely tired to think anymore about the day’s happenings. Seeing my state, my doc asked them to bring my baby back to me so that she could stitch up the place quickly. They gave me my baby and I held on to her very cautiously. She was my first support after delivery. I felt so safe and comforted by her warmth that all the pain I underwent seemed nothing at all and I realized then what it felt like to be a mother! A salute to all the mothers out there! They took her away again and then I suddenly realized, “Did she cry?” So frantically I asked my doc whether she did cry because I dint pay attention to that. All the nurses started laughing at my innocent inquisitiveness and my doc said she cried in the pediatrics room next door, when she was taken there for examination.
After the doc had completed her work, I thanked her as she left the labour ward. The nurses all sat down to relax. My head was spinning as I wanted to just doze off. My wheel chair arrived. I was still bleeding. I asked my mom to come in as I wanted to see her badly. I felt so relieved on seeing her smiling face. They covered me in some clothes and sent me off to my suite. My baby also came with me. My mom carried her. As I came out of the labour room, a whole battalion of known faces greeted me – my brother, grandparents, aunt, friends but my husband was nowhere to be seen. Finally when the lift opened, I saw him and felt emotional once again. These things may seem funny now and inexplicable but these are moments that remain in your heart for long. I could sense that he was thrilled and I felt happy. So, finally I was in my suite along with my bundle of joy! I was so exhausted I could think of nothing other than food. My mom fed me while my baby was sleeping happily next to me. After I came back to my normal self, I fed my baby under the guidance of a nurse and realized this was a bond that would never be broken ever, a bond that would bloom to give so many more precious moments in the years to come – the bond between Ananya (my baby) and me; a bond between any mother and her child!!!!
May 29, 2014 – It was business as usual for me. I was heavily sleeping in Bangalore at chandralayout house when the call came from Mom in law at around 5 AM. I was perplexed at the moment, but felt instinct happiness .Picked up the call and she said bindhu felt pain and taking her to hospital. I went sleepless imagining the things to come. After a brief panicking, I called her up and asked “Can I start from Bangalore? “…and the answer was “YES!!!”…I rushed to pack the things, looking for best mode of travel to reach earlier …earlier before my bundle of joy pops out of mom’s womb…
Caught the auto in front of chandralayout water tank and went straight to ATM to withdraw money. Alas! I realized I missed the credit card at home…took the auto back to home to get the card..The clock is ticking! Its 6.30 and the bus would leave sharply at 7 AM…The good auto driver rushed in frantic pace and the Samaritan took me to the bus stand at the right time!!!
I took the KPN Bus and slowly settled down. Meanwhile I called mom in law once again and got the opportunity to speak to my gal – bindhu. She felt confident while speaking and I felt very relieved as I was worried about her pain! The bus started and my joy and anxiety compounded with every inch the bus moved. I continuously bothered about reaching the hospital early and I wished the bus move faster and clock tick slower!! It was 8 AM and realized it’s just nearing Hosur – Wished I could afford a chopper….Called my manager and informed I would be on leave – not telling how many days! She was fine with it and wished us good luck!!
With every passing minute, my restlessness increased as I was constantly checking the updates with prashu and mom in law. Meanwhile my parents called and gave me words of comfort.
Much to my disgrace and unhappiness, the bus stopped for brunch break at A2B!!I really hated the word ”BREAK” at this moment. After few moments, the bus started again. When I called prashu I understood bindhu was inside the OT and delivery may happen by 1.30 PM– the time the bus was supposed to reach Chennai. I was worried more when I heard the Life cell, which was supposed to collect the stem cells, were not responding properly. Immediately, I called sadam hussain from life cell, scolded him and threatened to sue his company if anything goes wrong! Such was the terrible anger in my voice, he made repeated calls to me to ensure all were in place.
The clock was ticking and its now 11.30 AM when the disaster happened – The bus broke down and stopped at the same point for quite some time. I quarreled with bus driver as he was caught up between arranging the mechanic and arranging alternative transport. Thank god, we got another bus and continued our journey. Meanwhile I was constantly wondering what would be going on in OT. How bindhu and the baby were. Much to my relief, the life cell team arrived and was ready to go.
The bus finally reached Chennai at 1.30 and my heart palpitated, as I thought I may not be able to reach on time.However,I heard from father in law that the delivery was delayed .It rang music to my ears as i got glimmer of hopes now that I would be there on time at any cost. Quickly hired an auto, reached the hospital at 2.00 PM. I ran inside the hospital without collecting any change from autorickshaw!!
Rushed to second floor, it resembled a typical delivery scene in any Tamil movie! Scores of people in tense mood, I saw mom in law, father in law, prashu, neighbor aunty and prema aunty. The nurse came out and went Inside the OT. There was no sign of what was happening inside the OT.I were completely tensed and was speechless at the moment. Sweat oozed everywhere from my body but a pleasant sense of joy shivered down my spine. I waited for 30 minutes and the nurse suddenly came and told,”Still no pain.. …It would take at least an hour!! “
Thereafter I and prashu went to canteen to have tea and to get few biscuits. All of a sudden, prashu got a call saying “It wud happen in 5 minutes “…Then we left quickly to reach the OT. With tensed faces around, the doc came out with the little princess. He announced “It’s a gal”…..
He called me and showed me the baby. Seeing my baby, I was on cloud nine and my joy knew no bounds.Anany
My Birth Story:
Our daughter, Avyakta had arrived to the world on 9th May 2014 through a normal delivery. There is no word to express the happiness that my husband, Kundan and I experienced. Kundan always wanted a girl baby and was very sure we’ll have one ever since we started talking about baby.
I was in my 39th week of pregnancy then and my EDD was just a week due; so we were all set for the labour to start anytime. I had bloody show that afternoon which I ignored as there was no pain. Late in the evening after 9pm I started sensing some contractions which I again ignored as false ones. But as the contractions were almost regular at about 30 min frequency for next 4 hours (it was 1am by then) both Kundan and my mom were insisting on hurrying to the hospital. However, I did not believe it to be the onset of labour and so was dragging until 2 am; beyond that both were in no mood to sleep calm. So we three finally started to the hospital with our pre-packed baggage while it was heavily raining outside. All through I was nagging about heading to thehospital without any significant sign of labour and even prodded to return home and come for a check-up the following day only to invite stares from both of them. When we reached the hospital I was directed by the emergency to the labour ward by a nurse to perform CTG. The nurse also made an internal examination on me and reported to my gynaecologist (Dr.NR), the CTG parameters and that my cervix had dilated for about a couple of centimetres. As per the doctor’s advice I was admitted in the ward and until then though I had many contractions none of them was painful. After 8am my contractions were meagrely painful that I can sense them without having to touch the rock hard tummy. At 9am the nurse examined and reported 4cm dilation and I was taken to the labour ward at 10am. I was changed to a hospital gown and asked to lie on the bed there when they put IV lines onto my wrist. The absolutely fearless and painless me felt a jerk while the lady in the adjacent bed screamed out and kept moaning in labour; all of a sudden the sky was falling on me. I was trying my best to behave deaf to her cries and blind to the restless bunch of people hovering around her while a nurse wired me sufficiently, tagged me with label in the wrist and injected some support meds to the IV fluid. Paradoxically my contractions came to a halt for next 45 min (CTG said so) so I had the least to divert myself from the next bed lady’s deadly shrieks (or it just seemed so for me??!). Approximately by 10.55am I finally felt strong contractions that were still bearable but I felt so suffocating and sweating though the room was chilled by AC. I refused to take epidural as I hardly felt any unbearable pain. The labour progressed to second stage in hardly 10 minutes time and I felt a strong urge to push. The adjacent lady just delivered her baby and every other staff was around her at that time while I shouted ‘I feel like pushing, sister’. The surprised (or shocked she was?!) head nurse quickly re-allocated resources and beckoned for Dr.NR and a paediatrician, Dr.Prabhakaran while readying me for the delivery. Meanwhile I had called for Kundan and mom and in no time the doc and other assistants arrived around me. I felt like urinating and so the nurse fixed a catheter to empty my bladder which was uncomfortable and the doc broke the sac. Kundan almost fainted as he couldn’t stand the sight of blood and so had to go out while amma was in. The pain was in peak by now and I can remember only a long push and a brief one to deliver the bundle of happiness at 11.25am; people in the labour room called it ‘a super express delivery’.The first cry of our little princess was such a heavenly music. After that the placenta was delivered, cord blood and tissues were collected and episiotomy stiches were put, all in about half an hour while the bundle of joy screened by Dr.Prabhakaran was taken to neonatal room for preliminary tests. The baby was handed to me by a sister after I got shifted to the ward after an hour when I first breast fed my sweet little angel blissfully. Tonnes of thanks to Dr.NR who made it happen, nurses and other assistants in the labour ward for their support and not to mention the massive care of Kundan and prayers of my mom& aunt.I bet without Dr.Jayashree’s antenatal classes which I religiously followed, my delivery wouldn’t have been such a cake-walk experience.
My Birth Story :
My marriage is little similar to the writer Chetan Bhagat’s 2 States. Being married to my best friend we started our journey of life together 4 ½ years ago. Unlike other couples we did plan to have our 1st baby after our 1st wedding anniversary but never took any medications for this. I did take up a Rubella Vaccination after 7 months of my marriage. 2 years passed but baby in life was still pending.
Fallopian Tube saved:
After the 3rd wedding Anniversary, a month passed and suddenly I noticed that I had Pregnancy symptoms but also had my Periods. This continued even in the second month. I went to my regular gynecologist but she was not available so I had to find another doctor to check my doubt. On reference of my neighbor, I went to a Gynaecologist and she sent me for a scan. She insisted me to get scanned in a place known to her. During my scan, the lady with her friendly talks got all my details. Without knowing the intentions I was very frank. After the scan she asked me to wait, a little later she came to me telling that the Doctor wanted me to go to her clinic immediately. I was clear that I can go in the evening and so I did go in the evening alone. She then asked me to get admitted in her house cum (so called) clinic as I had Ectopic Pregnancy. She scared me out saying that my fallopian tube will burst so one of the tubes needs to be removed and after which I shall have 50% chances of conceiving again. I was heart broken and came home. My supporting husband gave me courage and told me that we shall wait and try to find out if it was really true. He got the doubt when the doctor had told me to come with the cash of Rs.30000/- the next morning for the removal of tube and she would call the technician to her place to perform the same. She called me within an hour to reconfirm. I tried hard to find my Uncle who is also a gynecologist, but he was abroad. I sent him an email of all the reports and scan along with my experience with the Gynaecologist. He asked me to wait until my regular gynecologist was back and there was nothing to worry. A week later, my regular gynecologist told that I did have Ectopic Pregnancy but there was no growth and it was cleared by the time and she asked who had misguided me to this extent. My tubes were saved.
The Dilation and Curettage:
3 moths later I conceived naturally. I was very happy and I quit my job the day I confirmed. I took all the precautions and care. It was almost 11 weeks but the heartbeat hadn’t started and in few days it started getting distorted due to which I had to get a Dilation and Curettage done. I felt “This too shall pass”. By this time I had to listen so many free advices also taunts and many insults too.
Follicular Study/ Monitoring:
With lot of mental traumas, I convinced my husband to get a Follicular Study on being influenced by one of the free advisers. I went to the Hospital for a general second opinion but ended up getting the study done. It was more like a shuttling between house and hospital. I went through this for 3 months and got more depressed as there was no result.
We decided to take a break and not thinking about it. Also decided not to even listen to those free advices. Days passed by and we got into our busy routine. Mentally every missed day was a counting and finally ended up getting upset on getting my periods.
This time I did not take any much care about myself, but something told me that this time I’d get positive. Though not much but I did take little care. I did go on a trip to Pondicherry along with my husband and his friends but enjoyed in limit. Came back from the trip and in few days, started the missed period day counting.
I couldn’t wait longer so just waited for 34 days and asked my husband to get me the home pregnancy test kit. He wanted to wait but did not say no when I requested. We tried and found a faded 2nd line. I was little upset again but thought I’ll repeat the test in 5 days again. My husband browsed through the Internet and found “A line is a line no matter how pale it is” and was excited. He took me to my regular hospital (SBS Hospital – Virugambakkam) and she performed the same test again and confirmed my pregnancy. This was the 1st time I saw that doctor was happy on the patient’s pregnancy. She had seen all the up’s and down’s in my life. Very motherly care she had and has for every patient she attends. She gave me some medications and some instructions to take care of my newly forming baby and me.
The 3 months was very tensed. When we went for every scan me and my husband would only look at the doctor’s face to see if she looks tensed. She would show us the yolk sac and the placenta etc. with very great difficulty we tried to understand in that black n white unclear picture. We waited for the heartbeat to start and the day we knew that the heartbeat started, we would partly celebrate. I was 30 yrs so I had to go for an NT Scan; we did the same in every stage of my pregnancy. I took complete rest for the 12 weeks. We were longing for a baby girl, as the doctors wouldn’t reveal the baby’s gender so I playfully tried to know by asking if she was fine instead of if the baby is fine. Doctor smiled away but never replied till I asked her again if the baby was fine she did reply that baby is doing good.
Signs – Dizziness, Excess fatigue.
By now I could feel very slight changes in my uterus. It was 14th week and 5 days I felt like a butterfly flutter. That was probably my baby’s 1st move I felt. After every scan or check up I would call up my mom and my husband to his mom. Then we would go and have a small celebration before returning home.
We did go out and my 1st public attended function was very special. It was my Father-in-law’s Film Pooja function. I was in my 5th month and felt nice walking around with a little bulged tummy. Got pampered a lot at the function.
I would ask every sister in the hospital for what baby I had but never got any reply. I was advised to use nipple puller for one side of my breast as I had it inverted. I started using it, as my doctor was worried if I could breastfeed my baby, if at all then it could be with a nipple shield. I started using it every day a lot of times.
Cravings – Loved to eat anything little sweet, Kaju Kathli, Gulab Jamoon, Special Mysore Pauk from Sri Krishna Sweets, Manoharam and Curd Vada from Grand Sweets, Carrot halwa and Vada Pav from Sri Mithai, Pizza with extra cheese, Pizza Mc Puff from Mc Donald, Chocolate Ice Cream with Hot Chocolate Sauce and Chocolate chips at Cream n Fudge, Pani Poori from Gangothri and Veg Sandwich with lots of Tomato Ketchup.
Every Scan we enjoyed our unborn child. My husband would talk a lot even if I slept off he would continue talking and updating about the projects we work on. He would sing and play different music’s and we would wait for the reaction from the baby in my tummy. I don’t know how many would believe but even if no one believe my baby would choose songs and give signals by kicking me really hard and hold on till the song was replayed. Towards the end of the checkups also I never got the answer for what baby I had. I continued using nipple puller but it got too sensitive.
Signs – Tiredness
The Due Date:
I was all prepared for a Vaginal Delivery and Everyone in the hospital were waiting for my delivery. Every time I went for a weekly check up, an old lady staff would ask me for when will I give her sweet? A smile on my face was my answer for the moment. I rushed twice to the hospital to ensure if I had a false labor. Then I knew when I had to really rush to the hospital.
My baby was 40 weeks and 1 day, a Sunday and Easter (20/04/2014) morning I suddenly started bleeding. I got ready to the hospital, which was less than 5 mins distance from my mom’s house. I called my husband and told him. Sent a whatsapp text to my friend, who is in Australia, then went to hospital. They got all ready and the started their procedures. I was asked to go back and come in the afternoon or evening as I stayed close by but my dad insisted that they give me a room and I go out from hospital safe with the baby.
All the inmates of the hospital were discharged and I was alone to get admitted. My Dad chose the room and shifted my things. They gave me drips and the urine bag etc. I waited till afternoon, Doctor came and checked that I still had time and she was mentally preparing me for the Vaginal Delivery. She told me that I would deliver before mid night 12 that day. When it was almost 5:30pm, they had some doubts and my doctor ruptured the amniotic sac and her expression changed. I asked her if everything was ok, she said the baby had passed his 1st poo and would have drunk it so I had to undergo a Caesarean/C-Section.
I immediately agreed because I wanted my baby safe. They waited for my husband’s arrival to finish with some documentation formalities. They then started calling the Anesthesia specialist and Pediatrician but many were unavailable for that last moment. After sometime they did all preparations and took me to the Operation Theater, which was on the 1st Floor of the hospital. They asked my parents and my In-Laws who were waiting in the ground floor to wait in the 1st floor. It was around 6:45pm they took me inside. I asked my doctor if my husband could be by me, she said NO.
I was shifted to the theater bed; they made me bend and gave me a prick on my spine. They lay me flat and waited till I went numb. They covered my eyes, yet I could see through a slight opening. They started performing the Operation and I told them that I could feel you cutting as if you were drawing a line with a ballpoint pen. They then again tilted me to make sure that anesthesia passed on till my neck. They continued their process and when the clock struck 7:05pm there was a loud cry of my little baby.
I could see my baby’s small bum and one leg through a small opening. Even now couldn’t see what baby I had. I finally asked them if I can at least now know what baby I have! I only got the answer that Pediatrician is checking and I’ll have to wait. I waited and suddenly my doctor came with my little baby in her arms dressed in Pink. She told me I had a baby boy. I had asked the sister’s to give me pink dress to my baby even if it was a boy. My wish was fulfilled.
My Doctor let me touch, hug and kiss my little one. The moment to cherish it was, though we were little disappointed for the moment as we were longing for a baby girl. But after seeing his face we were reborn.
We were shifted to our room – Room no 202. My husband stood like a strong pillar of support to me all through my struggles and he stayed back to take care our baby and me throughout nights for all the days in the hospital.
My Birth Story :
From 5th month of pregnancy I started attending prenatal claases which really equipped me for the toughest part of my life “delivery”. Everything was going on fine with me till 8th month and suddenly in 32 weeks scan the baby position was “breech”.After consulting with Dr.Jayashree she advised me to be in certain position everyday for 5 minutes and also told me to talk to the baby telling her to come to the best position.34th week scan was normal but it was told that the baby weight is much more than reported and her head is big big to be delivered normally.
My due date came and went without baby.I was dreaming about labor pains,getting them at home and than going to the hospital.But it never happened.My gynaecologist advised me to get admitted to hospital after 1 day of expected due date.During the whole 9 months period I was scared of being induced with labor as I wont be able to tolerate pain without moving and without doing any homework.But I had to be induced as there were no pains at all in the abdomen.I had severe pain but doctor said it was false contractions.At 2.30 pm I was induce with labor on 14th march.Small contractions rising to steep once.I was deep breathing and just tolerating every contraction .The whole thing went on till 6.30 pm and I delivered a baby girl.Its very difficult to tolerate such intense pain lying on bed.I tried to sit for a while which does the hospital did’nt allow I tried to catch hold of every nurse who was there inside the labor room.Holding someone tightly and asking them to help me tolerate my that contraction was kind of ritual I followed there.Additionally I was rubbing my head as soon as my stomach was contracting.It also helped me to pass all that time and come to pushing stage.I must say it would have been very easy to deliver if I would have gotten labor pains at home. Being induced made it difficult 100 times.Thanx to all homework I had done in my prenatal classes .If today I’ve delivered normally its due to Dr.Jayashree constant guidance through out.
I just can’t thank her enough:-
Today is my mom’s birthday ,she too had delivered 8 pounds babies normally;
Now as I sit back and relax ,I wonder
“how can we repay the debt we owe to our moms – by being a good daughter or
By being the best Mom?”
My Birth Story :
During my entire pregnancy, I’ve read almost all of birth stories and have loved the really detailed ones. So if this is a little long, it’s because I want people to truly get something from reading it.
My husband was in a urge to travel to US and we decided to go for inducing labour on July 5th. At my 38 weeks 4 days we were ready to induce our baby. July 4th, me and hubby went to eat a really good dinner because I’ve heard from everyone that once you’re admitted to the hospital you won’t be able to eat anything.After I was full we left and got to the hospital around 8 PM. I changed into those green hospital gowns and they started the monitors and everything was being set up. They monitored us for a while then we finally got to go up to a room to have gel applied. As I got of the bed after 10 PM, I felt what I thought was a sharp kick from the baby near my pubic bone
That night was calm and cloudy till 11 PM . Around 11 PM I got mild pain. I called jayashree and informed the status. She supported me over phone and gave instructions to do full squat and to follow the labour roadmap that was printed for me during pre natal classes. Myself, my mom and hubby were happy to stay together in room and wait for my baby to arrive. The contractions at the beginning were bad, but nothing like I had expected at all.
Till 1 AM the pain was tolerable and it started to increase drastically after 1 AM. My husband again called her at 1 AM.. I still remember she picked the call in 2 rings I was happy to see that she was taking care of me even without her presence. We informed her about dilation and the status of pain. She asked me not to shout and waste energy ..also added to save energy to push the baby.. her words strongly resided in my mind and I was with standing the pain till 3.30 AM.. I dilated about 7 to 8 cm and nurses shifted me to labour room at 4 AM. Halfway there, I started to have the urge to push.
My hubby called Jayshree and informed I was taken inside labour room. Jayashrees pre natal exercise helped me to push the baby out happily in 10 mins.. I could hear my baby boys voice at 4.15 AM .. that’s the happiest moment in my life . being 80 kg women I could deliver normally with the help of Jayashree and her support …She helped me in feeding the baby the very first minute after labour .. I feel things would have been much more difficult if she had not been there with me… I truly enjoyed my pregnancy and labour ..Thanks Jayashree once again .. I was very blessed to have such a quick and easy birth.
My Birth Story :
This is the most anticipated day of my life. Yes , after a longest longing I got my baby in my hands.
It was 22nd May , Sunday night when I got admitted in hospital. As planned earlier , my gynaecologist induced me the labor pain through a gel.Throughout the night there was only a minimal level of pain . Then around 7′o clk in the morning, I called Dr . Jayashree for labor support.She too entered the labor ward around 8.30 am. She was with me to lessen me mental stress and prepare me for next few hours of pain , mentally.All I could remember is jayashree’s voice saying . ” charanya don’t cry , don’t scream and waste your energy, because you need more energy at the time of pushing baby”. She was giving me the countdown timing for my pain like, “charanya still you have 20 seconds of pain, breathe in and breathe out deeply, these words prepared my mind for delivery pain. “you have 1 minute to relax, relax”, only these words are repeating in my ears. Definitely jayashree maam is a blessing in disguise.
Frequently my Gynaec was checking for cervix dilation , blood pressure, etc. As the Blood Pressure was normal, I had hopes for natural birth.So in order to increase the labor pain and thereby reduce the time, they gave gave me an injection through glucose.It was a real meditation to wait with much of thirst, hunger & pains to get this sweet, cute blessing (my daughter).As they cleaned my stomach previous night itself, I had to face the labor pain with extreme thirst and hunger.I gained much of the moral support from jayashree mam . She was motivating me to face the labor pain more confidently.All I did was blindly obeying her words.
I had no idea of what is happening around me by 10.30 am, due to severity of pain.The most funniest thing I did was , I held jayashree maam’s hands tightly and didi’nt even allow her to attend her phone calls.
Than , doctors checked for the progress in labor.It was not as quicker as we expected.It seemed like the baby as to descend still more to enter the cavity.After sometime , my Gynaec suggested me to go for a cesarean section. It was because of my strong determination , God’s grace and jayashree maam’s support that I delivered the baby naturally by 12.30 pm and escaped from c-section.
I kept my fingers crossed for a normal delivery as well as a girl baby, both was fulfilled.the moment I heard it’s a girl baby , I felt like flying high. After a while , one of the nurses brought my daughter to me, the moment her cheeks touched mine , tears rolled out of my eyes. I felt the real pain and pleasure on the same day.
My Birth Story :
I am Jobi. I am happy to inform birth of my sweet little daughter Ashleey Lera. I am really very happy to share my experience about labor pain and delivery. It was really a most memorable experienced to be remembered and cherished always.
I had the problem of less amniotic fluid. So doctors said that they are not going to wait till my due date February 14th. I was asked to admit in the hospital on February 9th. But since CTG scan report showed that the baby heart beat is normal and baby is fine. So doctors told me that they are going to wait till my due date.
I came back home from the hospital in the afternoon and had my lunch. When i was about to take a small nap i felt liquid flushing out of my vagina. I called Dr Jayashree mam she confirmed me that my labor is about to start. She asked me to take bath and do full squat and go to hospital. I did as mam told and went to hospital. Doctor came and checked me and she put a gel in my vagina to induce pain.
First the pain was normal bearable similar to pain during periods. As time went on the intensity of the pain increased. The duration between pain decreased and intensity of pain increased. I was admitted at hospital at 3 pm. The pain was bearable till 8 o clock and after that the intensity of the pain was high and i was not able to bear the pain. I did the breathing exercise mam thought me. Nurse gave me enema to pass away all the stools. I heard Doctor telling my mom that i will delivery baby by 6 o clock. It was a long period from 8 at night to 6 in the morning.
My pain intensified very higher at 11pm. I was not able to bear the pain. I cant explain the pain. I felt that some one hitting my uterus with a hammer. I had continuous pain with only 30 secs gaps between pain. I had the feeling that i must not give stress to my baby so that she wont pass tool. I kept on praying. The pain was even more higher that my mind was saying better Cesarean section. Then i consoled myself saying please Jobi wait for some more hours normal delivery is always good.
From 11 o clock i had unbearable pain that whenever i had pain i put pressure on the vagina. I felt baby moving down. I told nurse that i had urge to push. She put CTG to check whether my baby heart beat is normal. And everything was fine.
At 2 o clock my doctor had a feeling to come and see me. She came and examined my vagina and said that baby is already down the birth the canal and baby is ready to come out. Doctor asked me to come to the next room and she put injection so that there wont be any pain during episiotomy. And after episiotomy with one push baby came out. She was an active baby who cried immediately after birth. Then doctor started stitching after episiotomy.
After the delivery of my baby there was no pain. My happiness had no bounds. I was really happy after that. The pain which i had after delivery because of the stitches was nothing compared to labor pain. Labor pain is unbearable but bearing the pain for some hours will lead to delivering a baby through vagina and pain after delivery is nothing. Thank you Jayashree mam for all all your support and your classes helped me a lot and gave me a lot of confidence